People say that we are never ready to get married. From one perspective, there may be some truth to that, but from another perspective, we can actually prepare ourselves or, to put it more accurately, 'develop' ourselves to be better people for a marriage relationship someday.

#1- Know Your Rights and Your Partner's

Even if you are not married, it is not wrong to learn about the rights and laws related to marriage. For example, about maintenance, duties and responsibilities, and obligations as husband and wife.

If you already have a candidate, you can start discussing the expectations that you and your partner want from each other, for example, dividing up time with your in-laws, cooking or managing the house, etc. It may seem small, but it will reduce unwanted 'surprises' in the household.

#2- Refer to Other People's Comments About You

The people who clearly know your true nature are often your family members and close friends. Ask them for their opinions on areas of your personality that need improvement. It could be discipline in managing time, emotional issues, or even something as small as hygiene habits.

They may give you an honest answer that is hard to swallow. Don't be passive aggressive and dismiss what you're being told. Take your time and think about whether their comments are true or not. If they are not true, put them aside, but if they are true, that's the part that needs attention.

You can also ask them for suggestions on what improvements can be made. Focus on solving the problem rather than feeling inferior or blaming yourself.

#3- Improve the Way You Deal with Conflict

A marriage is not just filled with rainbows or flowers. Marriage is a complex process, because you are living with someone who has different thoughts, feelings and habits than you. Therefore, the way to solve problems is also different.

Understand each other's ways and reach a compromise. At the beginning of your marriage, you may have just realized that you are someone who likes to avoid and keep calm, while your partner does not like to delay discussions, so reach a compromise and a middle ground. Many prejudices can be resolved with healthy communication.

We often get angry quickly when there is a problem. It is normal to be angry, but be angry in a respectful way; do not belittle your partner, do not shout and scold, and do not bring up things.

#4- Find Out What Qualities You Want in a Partner

As we strive to develop ourselves, we will slowly begin to become clear about what we need and what we are able to compromise on.

You can probably list a lot of characteristics of an ideal partner, but in the real world, a human being cannot fulfill all of them. There must be some compromises. For example, you want someone who is funny and humorous, but what you really need is someone who is not easily discouraged and can provide support in life. Therefore, you may be able to accept that he or she is someone who is not easily discouraged, even if he or she is not a funny person.

However, in determining the qualities you want in a partner, you first need to be clear about what you really need in life with a partner.

#5- Be Happy for Your Married Friend

Pray for goodness and prosperity for friends who have already met their soulmates and gotten married. Indeed, the prayers we entrust to our friends, even in secret, will be acknowledged by the angels for ourselves.

Be happy to see them happy. Traditionally, there will be many happy moments with your partner that they will share on social media. Don't feel jealous or trashy, pray for the best for them and for ourselves.

Hopefully, some of the preparations we have shared can be used as a good guide. Finally, it is important to understand that preparation is necessary but it is also important to be flexible and adapt to the needs of future domestic relationships.

Date of Input: 09/04/2026 | Updated: 09/04/2026 | asmunir