By Natirah Azira

Many things can become a problem when we try to control what we cannot control, one of which is people's perceptions. If we think back, how many times our hearts hurt when we are misunderstood or misunderstood. We try to change people's perceptions and opinions about us. When it doesn't work, we become angry, hurt and maybe even resentful.

So, posts on social media arose regarding comments that needed to be answered when relatives asked personal questions when they met; "When do you want to get married?", "When do you want to have children?", "How much does your job pay?"

Many people think that they just want to chat and ask about their life, so they need to be answered nicely. Others think that sharp and cutting answers need to be reciprocated so that they don't ask again.

Yes, there is no denying that there are those who do not guard their words and make hurtful comments when chatting, as if they know better what is best for us, whether in terms of family, work or studies. But opinions are just opinions. They are freely given to anyone, even without a clear reason.

Mufti Menk said, let people think what they want about us. We are not responsible for what they think or any of their views that we should be this or that. In fact, we cannot stop them from thinking at all.

Let's learn to convince ourselves that people's perceptions of us are indeed difficult to change. We can try to explain and provide explanations but we must not let our souls be restless just because we want them to have a good and correct perception of us. The truth is, people's perceptions and thoughts are things that are indeed difficult to control.

What they think has nothing to do with you, it doesn't even add or subtract anything. Live well in the way you feel is right for you. Take good advice that can be used as a guide, and leave the hurtful comments.

Date of Input: 19/08/2025 | Updated: 19/08/2025 | asmunir