If asked what the goal of a person's life is, one of the answers would be to have a family of their own. Getting married and having children is one way to continue the generation.

In fact, it is among the noble and Sunnah deeds that are encouraged to be done. As evidenced by the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH):

Whoever marries has completed half of the faith; let him fear God in the other half.

Meaning: "Whoever marries has completed half of his faith. And he should fear Allah in taking care of the other half." _{(Hadith narrated by Anas b Malik, 8/335)}

The Law of Single Life

However, finding a soulmate is not something that comes easily like a blessing that falls from the sky. Each of us needs to put in the effort to find a good soulmate.

And one of the efforts is to pray to be matched with the right partner and that it comes at the right time.

Don't ask God to grant you a life of celibacy forever, that is something that should be avoided.

As there is a story that once happened among the companions who wanted to busy themselves in worship to the point of forgetting their natural nature.

Anas bin Malik said – “There were three people who came to the house of the wife of the Prophet (PBUH) and asked about her worship of the Prophet (PBUH). They said: “Where are we compared to the Prophet (PBUH)? Even though his past and future sins have been forgiven.”

One of them said: “As for me, I want to pray at night forever.”

Another friend also said: "I want to fast continuously until not a day passes without me fasting."

And another friend said: “I will leave women and will never marry.”

His Majesty SAW then said: "You are the ones who say such and such. By Allah, I myself am the most fearful and pious of Him. I also fast, but there is a time to rest and not to fast. I perform the night prayer and there is a time for me to sleep. I also marry women. Whoever hates my teachings, then he is not from my group." _{(Hadith narrated by Bukhari, no. 5063)}

Ibn Hajar Al-Asqalani, when discussing this hadith, said; anyone who hates the teachings stated, and that includes anyone who intends not to marry, then he is not included in its group.

Because of that, scholars say, don't hate marriage. It's best, if you don't have the intention or ability to get married, always pray and hope to Allah to bless you with a good partner and hopefully you will also be able to be a good partner.

According to Ibn Taymiyyah and Imam Nawawi, marriage has rules that need to be considered based on one's own circumstances and situation.

Weak Hadith on the Humiliation of Being Single

The original law of marriage is circumcision. If you have reached the stage where you are able and obligated to marry, then get married.

However, if you haven't and choose to live single again, that is also okay as long as you don't reject the Sunnah of marriage.

There is a hadith narrated regarding the humiliation of people who choose to live a single life.

Meaning: “Indeed, among our Sunnah is marriage, the most disgraceful of you is the single person among you, and the most disgraceful of the dead among you is the single person among you.”

However, this hadith is considered weak by scholars based on its weak interpretation.

Imam Al-Haitami said that it is a narration from Abu Zar RA which has an unknown narrator.

Meanwhile, the narration of 'Ukkaf bin Wada'ah RA also has a weak narrator, namely Mu'awiyah bin Yahya Al-Sadafiy.

However, the majority of people are of the opinion that this hadith does not reach the level of forgery. It is weak due to the existence of weak narrators.

Imam Nawawi concluded that this hadith is for people who are able to get married but prefer to live single and wallow in sins such as adultery and so on.

Conclusion

There is no disrespect for single people. We see that each of them must have their own reasons, whether they have not yet found a soulmate, are not yet financially and academically strong, or some choose to be devoted to their parents first.

The most important thing is to take care of yourself and always pray that God gives you the best.

By Allah, the Almighty.

Date of Input: 19/12/2025 | Updated: 19/12/2025 | asmunir